3 ways to create your own “ME” time

Written by Wendy Mak


14 03 18 Me timeHands up who feels like you need a little “ME” time???

We all need some time for ourselves. That became clearly evident when I was writing my speech for a Women’s Day event last week.

As part of that presentation I touched on what it meant to be a woman in the workplace.

And one of the things that I talked about is how our first job as women in work, is to support + lift other women in the workplace.

You see we’re all in the unique position of understanding what we’re all going through – juggling a million balls at once – being a career woman, go-getter, colleague, friend, wife, lover, mother, housekeeper, chef, driver and a million more things.

And this really made me stop to think. When do we make time for “me”?


1. Physically make the time

The first thing about creating “me” time is to know that sometimes we have to literally carve it out from our schedule. We have to physically make this time happen.

In my case, my day is pretty full. So the way I try to make it happen is to wake up before everyone else in my household. I may not wake up as early as I’d like 🙂 but I try to wake up earlier than everyone else. This is my “me” time.

In this quiet hour I (try) to do three things:

1. Create, not consume

I make sure I “create” and not consume (which means I use that time to work on projects or planning strategies instead of checking my emails, social media or reading the news).

2. Move.

I’m not a meditator (although I believe there’s much merit in it), but I do try to move. Even if it’s walking around the garden for a minute or 5 minutes, I try to move because I know that I’ll mostly spend the rest of the day at my laptop.

(I’ve actually learnt both of these things from a very cool “green living” blogger in Singapore Our Little Green Dot.)

3. Plan.

I also take a little part of my early hour to plan + prioritise my day, which makes a HUGE difference to not just my productivity, but also to my mental attitude.

I’m calmer and more focused, and don’t feel so stressed out when I know exactly what I should be doing that day.


(For those interested, I use both an online productivity tool called Asana and also the good old paper-based “things to do” list.)


2. Change your focus

Sometimes, you can even find your “ME” time when you simply change your focus.

Start focusing on yourself. Go back to making YOU an important person.

Schedule “appointments” with yourself and do not cancel them.

I’ve declined some clients or work by simply saying “I’m so sorry, I’m booked at [that time], can we schedule this for another time?” You’d be amazed at how flexible and accommodating people can be, if you just ask.

It’s hard to do at first but very important for you to do in the long-term.


3. “Me” time doesn’t have to be the same for everyone

Finally – understand that your “ME” time doesn’t need to be the same as mine.

I get a bit nervous and tetchy when I don’t feel like I’m working on big picture projects for my biz – hence I choose to wake up early so I can have some uninterrupted moments to work on my projects.

Your ME time may be more about needing to get out for that run or Pilates class to clear your head. Others may want some down time where they do not need to think and grab a facial instead.

There’s no “right” or “wrong” way to spend your ME time. But the key is to make sure you take that time out to have it.


How do you create “me” time in your world?

I’d love to know – drop me a reply below.


Here’s to YOU,







By | 2017-09-19T10:17:49+00:00 March 18th, 2014|Grow Your Biz, Live Well, Motivating Mindsets|8 Comments


  1. Alex March 18, 2014 at 11:38 am - Reply

    Hi Wendy,

    I became a mother for the first time roughly 3 years ago. Now with 2 children I look back at my days before motherhood and WISH I hadn’t taken ‘ME TIME’ so much for granted! Now whenever I get the chance for me time I like to go for a swim and enjoy the silence the water provides me. After my swim I admire the view from my pool and acknowledge how grateful I am for that peaceful moment and the beauty that surrounds me.

    ME TIME is such an important concept! Thank you for this BLOG post!

    • Wendy Mak March 18, 2014 at 11:50 am - Reply

      Oh I LOVE the silence of the water. I’m not a strong swimmer but I do enjoy it. The water is such a great place to get grounded and find peace. Love your ME time Alex and thanks for sharing – and a big hats off to you for juggling everything in your life (and taking the time out in what must be a very busy schedule to read this post!!!) xxx

  2. Anne Turpeinen March 18, 2014 at 11:47 am - Reply

    Hi Wendy,

    Love reading all your Blogs, so inspiring.

    Can’t wait to catch up on Saturday!

    My ME time is Pilates and having my nails done.

    Kindest Regards,

    My Inspired Style…xxx

    • Wendy Mak March 18, 2014 at 11:52 am - Reply

      You are so welcome Anne – thank you for reading and I can’t wait to help you get your biz going on Saturday!! Pilates + nails. Love that combination! xxx

  3. Lyn March 18, 2014 at 4:31 pm - Reply

    Hi Wendy
    Every time I have alone time I check email, FB etc. it’s terrible! N yes after my baby was born, me time is non existence! So little thing like a nice hot shower is precious.

    • Wendy Mak March 18, 2014 at 5:34 pm - Reply

      Sometimes it’s the little things you have to enjoy Lyn!! So if it’s a hot shower, savour it. Some of my best thoughts are had in the shower!! 🙂 thanks for sharing!! Xxx

  4. Sophie April 6, 2014 at 1:00 pm - Reply

    Create not consume. What a great concept.

    • Wendy Mak April 9, 2014 at 3:32 pm - Reply

      Yeah I love it. I’m not always good at it – but I try.

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