The body image fashion has taught us to idolise

Written By Wendy Mak


As a personal stylist I was shocked at this awful photo-shop job on one of America’s most beautiful and funniest women, Melissa McCarthy (she of Bridesmaid movie fame amongst others). If you missed it, then catch up on it here.

Looking at that, I was again reminded of how we’re constantly being taught by large groups of media & retailers to obsess about our body AND to believe that a thinner frame is the ultimate “ideal”.

This hits close to home for me…

I’ve seen first-hand how the pressure of what we see in shop windows, magazines and on TV, can cause women with absolutely normal and healthy bodies to scrutinise themselves – and pick out flaws in themselves.

I’m not saying that learning how to camouflage problem areas is a bad thing. On the contrary – my job as a fashion stylist has been to help my clients best dress themselves to give them the ultimate in confidence.

What I am saying is this: let’s not see negatives where there really aren’t any.

The fact is most of us can be guilty of comparing today with yesterday. We compare our today self with the younger, slimmer, trimmer version and then we look at say, our arms and think “gee they don’t look so flash anymore”.

We forget that to someone who’s just met us, your arms look absolutely perfect!! They have NO IDEA what our arms looked like 10 years ago – their only barometer is what they see in us right now, today.

And THAT my friends, should be our only barometer too.

Can we change how we perceive our bodies?

It’s not an easy journey to love and accept your body for what it is. But I hope this video will help you to pause and re-consider how you perceive your body, if only for a second.

(I should warn you I felt very passionately about this and recorded this video in one straight take so please forgive any blips or stumbles on my part!!)

So please share this message and video today because you never know who may need it…. Love and appreciate your body, the amazing growth and transformation it will take and it will love you back. For as long as your body is healthy, you are already the winner.

With love, style & happiness!





By | 2017-09-19T09:22:53+10:00 June 17th, 2013|Fabulous Fashion, How to fashion|14 Comments


  1. Karen June 17, 2013 at 1:01 pm - Reply

    What a wonderful positive way to think, thanks Wendy. We do all need to step back and be
    thankful for what we have.

    • Wendy Mak June 17, 2013 at 1:13 pm - Reply

      Absolutely Karen!! We all need to remember to be grateful for everything we have, every day that we have it! Thanks for the comment x

  2. Suzi June 17, 2013 at 1:02 pm - Reply

    Thank you SO much for this beautiful video and post! I am getting pictures taken for my website this week, and I’ve been worried about certain body parts not looking wonderful. This was exactly the perspective I needed!

    • Wendy Mak June 17, 2013 at 1:15 pm - Reply

      I’m SO glad to hear this has been of service to you Suzi!! I know how hard it is to take photos when you’re in the “spotlight” so to speak but I have no doubt you will look fabulous … Feel free to drop us a link to it and share it when it’s done!!!! Thanks for connecting & have FUN at the photo shoot!! xx

  3. Briohny Boater June 17, 2013 at 2:33 pm - Reply

    I love the positive message in this video Wendy, thank you. We should stop wasting time and love our bodies now. I don’t want to get to a point in my life where I look back and wish I enjoyed what I had then. I want to enjoy it now! Thanks Wendy. B x

    • Wendy Mak June 17, 2013 at 3:07 pm - Reply

      I hear you Briohny – live with no regrets!! Thank you so much for watching, reading & connecting!! xx

  4. Alba June 19, 2013 at 12:36 pm - Reply

    As always inspirational words Wendy! I’m going to keep this video clip handy so on “fat days” I can have a listen an snap myself out if it!!!

    • Wendy Mak June 19, 2013 at 12:39 pm - Reply

      Love how you say it Alba! Yep, sometimes we just need to snap out of our thoughts!! Thanks for connecting!!! xx

  5. Joycee June 19, 2013 at 12:54 pm - Reply

    I love the comment about the 78yo wishing she’d enjoyed her 50yo body more. I consider myself to have quite a positive body image (I would have no problem answering the ‘what do you like most about your body’ question), but I still often compare myself to my younger days when I was fitter and trimmer. Thank you for putting it into perspective – “right now” is one day going to BE my younger days, so I need to really celebrate the way I am now, and appreciate my 31yo body. Thank you, Wendy : )

    • Wendy Mak June 19, 2013 at 12:59 pm - Reply

      Oh Joycee I am SO happy to hear you found this video to be of service. I too LOVE the perspective my client gave me. It made me realise I needed to be thankful and grateful for what I have today. She really changed my thinking. Enjoy your beautiful 31 yo body and good for you for having a positive approach to your own body! Thanks for commenting xx

  6. Janna June 21, 2013 at 10:35 pm - Reply

    Thank you for a wonderful video Wendy. Just last night I was saying to someone that I used to think “I wish I had more of my father’s genes.” Now I realise that if I had more of his genes, I also would have a much higher risk of certain diseases. We often forget to be grateful for our body and the health that it brings us right now.

    • Wendy Mak June 22, 2013 at 8:33 pm - Reply

      Oh Janna thank you for sharing your perspective, it’s so very true, health is the no 1 when it comes to our bodies – thank you for the good reminder and thanks for connecting xx

  7. Tracy Tully August 31, 2013 at 5:13 pm - Reply

    Thanks for the positive video Wendy! The reminder to enjoy who we are and live for the now is so important and gets lost in the fast world we live in. But most importantly, I really thank you for your generosity in making this video available for me to show others, it confirms my beliefs to enjoy the simple things in life. Tracy

    • Wendy Mak August 31, 2013 at 5:33 pm - Reply

      You are SO welcome Tracy! I am grateful you have found this video of service xx

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